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January 18, 2007
Looking for Comfort
Some days, when I can't find comfort anywhere, I become overwhelmed with the thought that others cannot find comfort either.
I think about what my children need when they get hurt. They need me to pick them up and hold them tight, and say something along the lines of, "That must have hurt so much..." At this point, for some reason, they cry a great heart wrenching cry from the depths of their heart. While they are crying I find myself saying, "I am so sad that you are hurt...I wish I could take the pain away...go ahead and cry, because tears wash your heart."
I look into their tearful eyes, and kiss their soft, salty cheeks. I whisper to them that I love them, that I am so happy to be their mommy, and that I will hold them for as long as they'd like.
I have found that I am longing for comfort but can not find it.
I need--desperately need--to cry. But I can't. I just can't. If ever my eyes tear up, something inside of me stops the tears. I don't know why.
And this is where I think about writing so much more, but a sense of self-preservation keeps my hands from typing out those words.
That is all for tonight.
Posted by darby on January 18, 2007 06:14 PM
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Hey, Darbs- Those salty kisses will stay with you forever. And never be afraid of self-preservation, it is a good thing...
Posted by: Min on January 19, 2007 12:01 AM
through tears i write this...if ever i had a mommy who said such beautifully penetrating words to me...if ever i could be a mommy to say such words...wow. i think all would be well.
you're always welcome in my cardboard box. i'm starting to find some comfort there.
Posted by: Beck on January 21, 2007 12:15 AM
why do tears help? do they help? i wonder if joy wouldn't be more helpful.
Posted by: anonymous on January 22, 2007 05:24 PM
upon further reflection, i think i've answered my own questions. crying indicates mourning, and mourning is often necessary before joy can be felt again. so i hope you can cry and mourn, and then after the sorrow has poured out, i hope joy will fill you. the song "here comes the sun" by the beatles comes to mind.
Posted by: anonymous on January 23, 2007 11:08 AM
Darby,
I know how it feels to need to cry; not to want it, but to physiologically need it like you need breathing. I can't tell you how to get that catharsis. There is no magic formula. All I know is that sometimes, our bodies protect us from tears that are too bitter to cry right now. You will cry when you can take it. You will feel that bitter-sweet release; that wave of pain and anguish that signals the oncoming comfort. And when it happens, I hope that you will feel the kind of comfort that you have provided for your children. I hope that someone very special will hold you close, for as long as you need to be held.
Posted by: Susan on January 30, 2007 11:45 AM
Yesterday, I interviewed TODAY contributor Dr. Gail Saltz about the benefits of crying, what causes it and what it does emotionally and physically. The segment was entitled "Is crying good for you?" You may want to watch it by clicking the below link. Give it a minute to load.
http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=4ccd8306-533c-49a8-8ffc-87ac00930541&f=00&fg=copy
Posted by: Matt Lauer on January 31, 2007 06:20 PM
just wonderin' if we can expect a feb. post. no pressure...just curious...
Posted by: Mr. Blue on February 9, 2007 01:21 PM
yeah, we'd love to hear your thoughts again...
Posted by: me on February 12, 2007 08:57 PM
Tears are one of the most healing things God ever created. Lynn once told me that you can tell the difference between tears that are healing and tears that are not. She said if you feel better after you cry then they were healing. I never thought about it until she said that and now I always check if my tears were healing...or not (IE I just threw a temper tantrum and wanted my way). I will write a song about sisters and it will make you cry.
Posted by: mers on March 1, 2007 07:05 PM